To quote Portlandia, “Kim Gordon and Thurston Moore are divorced, and you’re just the orphans left behind.” That sentence can resonate with every Sonic Youth fan whose belief in true love was shattered when news of the iconic couple’s divorce surfaced. After 27 years of marriage, they had succumbed to the stereotypical deterioration of an American marriage. Up was down, black was white and nothing made sense any more.
Finally, someone has gotten down to the bottom of this travesty. Elle.com posted an interview today with Kim Gordon where she speaks as openly as one could about her relationship with Thurston Moore and what went wrong.
Some years ago, a woman Gordon declines to name became a part of the Sonic Youth world, first as the girlfriend of an erstwhile band member and later as a partner on a literary project with Moore. Eventually, Gordon discovered a text message and confronted him about having an affair. They went to counseling, but he kept seeing the other woman. “We never got to the point where we could just get rid of her so I could decide what I wanted to do,” Gordon says. “Thurston was carrying on this whole double life with her. He was really like a lost soul.” Moore moved out. Gordon stayed home and listened to a lot of hip-hop. “Rap music is really good when you’re traumatized,” she says.
WHAT!? Thurston Moore had an affair, and there is no God. Kim goes on to describe the lengthy divorce process that’s due to a difficult division of assets, what she has been up to lately and the variety of suitors she currently has. But throughout the entire article, I could only think about Thurston Moore and another woman. What is her name? What does she look like? Where do they live? How could someone cheat on Kim Gordon, who is a huge influence to all women in music and an icon to all women in general?
These are questions we may never know the answers to, but maybe someone can follow up this article with a Thurston Moore interview. Regardless of what happens next, it doesn’t make our heartbreak any easier to bear. Moore and Gordon are no longer, and to semi-quote Portlandia once again, “Sonic Youth is over.”
You can read the entire interview with Kim Gordon here.